What Is Love?

By Francis K Githinji

The four letter word is the most widely used and I might also say abused in the world today. It flows so effortlessly through the lips of men and women. It is thrown so carelessly even where it is not necessary. Sometimes it makes me think there is no definite definition of this word. It depends on the context in which the word has been used. The definition of love is at a persons discretion. But what is love? It is subject to debate because there are many types of love. It depends with the perspective from which you are looking at it. Maybe you are a Christian and what has been drummed into you is agape love from the gospels. What about the love that you feel or have towards a sibling? I hope you are also not forgetting the so called love that is said to bring a man and a woman together.

When a man sees a woman for the first time, and he is attracted to that woman it is said it is love at first sight. But the better phrase to use would be it was lust at first sight. This is the most correct assessment especially of such a scenario. The male species in a human being is still an animal and is always looking for potential females to mate with. It is sex that attracts a man to woman but not love. what is love? Love means something different to man. To him having sex with a woman is paramount and it does not mean that he loves that woman. This is the reason why a man is genetically polygamous. There is nothing like love, it is the power of the loin that is attractive. How else does a man manage to have several wives and lovers hanging at the fringes?

Love is an illusion, it is a creation of the mind. What makes us believe there is love is simply because we do not want to change the status quo. It is a tradition passed from generation to generation and who are we to break these tradition? We were brought up believing in the concept of love. We grew up in a society where the word love was being thrown right, left and center with so much abandon. It is entrenched in our minds that yes, there is love. But have you ever sat down and pondered about is? Have you ever asked yourself what is love? And do you believe in it? Do not start biting your finger nails or scratching your head over the issue, it might go bald it it is not already bald.

The so called love that is so much hyped up is only a temporarily infatuation. People keep on falling in and out of "love". People fall out because infatuation is a temporary feeling and once it is worn out everything is over between the two of you. It must be understood that no love was involved. There is a very big misconception of the true meaning of love. Love is used as an escape goat so that people can indulge in their fantasies. What is love? Love is kindness stretched over a long period of time. It is the best way to put it.

Does He Really Love Me? Leave It To The Stars To Decide

by Sasha Drake

Often, it's very difficult to know whether or not your man truly loves you. Men are difficult to read, they hide their emotions well so that even if your man expresses his love for you, it is often tricky to come to the right conclusion. If you've ever asked yourself: "Does he love me?" I suggest that you stop trying to figure it out yourself and leave it to the stars to decide the does he love me test.

What do I mean by the stars?

Don't worry, I haven't gone crazy. As I said, it's nearly impossible to figure out whether your man really does love you. You should use a star love reading to see for sure.

A star reading is a process by which an astrologer uses you and your man's birthday to draw a combined star chart. Through this chart the astrologer is able to see into your relationship and examine the depth of your man's emotions towards you. You may think I've lost my mind, but people looked to the stars to provide answers for them for thousands of years. Why shouldn't you?

You probably won't be able to come to a 100% sure conclusion by yourself. Aren't you curious to see what your star love reading will show? It's not only exciting, it can also be a lot of fun to see what your future holds. I don't believe that everything is determined by the stars, but some people swear by it. I say, let the stars answer the question: "Does he really love me?" for you.

6 Ways to Show that "I love you"

By Lee Joe

I love this girl very much. Right now she is my wife. I still love her as much. I want to share my love with her, show my
love to her. I sometimes do things just to show her that I love her. These are some things that I do.

1. Watch a DVD together

This is the what I love doing. On our weekends, I'll rent a nice DVD, knowing that she will love watching. I'll prepare
some chips and red wine. Cuddling up the sofa, watching a nice movie, with chips and sipping red wine. What a romantic
night to spend with your love one.

2. Saying "I love you"

Married for three years, still today, I say "I love you" to my wife. This three words are the most powerful words on to show
your love. Say it not just for the sake of saying, but say it with all the feelings of love. Look into her eyes, say it
to her soul. I'll always get a hug for that.

3. Strolling after dinner

I'll bring her to the park after dinner. Strolling while holding her hand. We'll always share our dreams and life while
strolling. Catching up with each other's life due to the busy week we both had.

4. Write a book for her

I wrote a book about us and gave it to her on one of her birthday. The book says about how we met each other till we decided
to be an item. At times we'll still take out the book to read to rekindle that love that we have for each other

5. Email poems to her

I usually use email for my work. Once a while I'll send love poems to her via email. This surprised her, because she knows
my habit of using emails for work only. This simple act just make her beautify her day.

6. Handmade cards

I love to make cards. I make cards to my wife in any occasions. I want her to have the only special kind where no others
have. Only those that I made are special and unique. It doesn't need to be beautifully done up. All my cards are simple
yet unique. Some cards don't even have any drawings or designs, just a coconut tree sketch by me. Although it's simple
but it shows a lot about the love I have for her.

Love Affirmations

By Krzysztof Sroka

If there is one thing that can make everybody really happy, it is love. Love can mean different things to different people, but what really people want is to love someone and to be loved by someone.
Everybody needs someone special in their live, but statistics show that there are lots of lonely people.

Fortunately people are learning now about the Law of Attraction and how to attract a loving soul mate. If we want to attract someone special, the most important thing is to become attractive. I don't mean physically attractive. I mean attractive inside, to be a person with good character and personality. When we think or visualize our perfect soul mate, is it only important to us how this person looks? Of course not. We want more. We don't just think about the person's body.

There are different ways how to become attractive and attract loving relationships. One of the best methods is love affirmations. Humans are creatures of habit, so by repeating affirmations often with feeling and emotions, we will get into a habit of thinking about love.

According to the law of attraction "likes attracts likes". When there is love in your mind you will attract love. Even before you attract your soul mate, just by using love affirmations you will feel better, because the attitude of love in your mind will replace negative, unwanted feelings.

Below are some examples of love affirmations you can use. First you should start with affirmation recommended by Louise Hay, a healer, minister, and author of "Heal Your Body" and many other life-transforming books. The affirmation is "I love and approve of myself". If you don't love and approve of yourself, it will be very difficult to find someone who will really love you.

Some other affirmations I like are:

"I am emanating love to everybody I meet"

"I feel loved and appreciated"

"I'm attracting wonderful and loving people"

"I give and receive love easily"

These are just some examples of love affirmations. You can create your own love affirmations.

5 Major Tips To Make Your Dream Girl To Love You In 2 Months

By Hadee Ismail

Hi, this article might be useful to boys who are beginners in the field of love. These tips have been tested by me and its working. It’s important that you read carefully and understand.

1] Attention.

First you should get the attention of whom you are going to love. Its okay she is older or elder but first you should get the attention. Without it you can’t love a women or a girl. For an example try flirting or ask the time or ask her a book to read. Be careful, don’t flirt on public places. If you do so you would be kicked by older boys.

2] Good relationship.

Okay, now you have got the attention of your love, you should be friendly and build up your relationship more and more. Try helping her with her work sometimes or chat or text her. Make arrangements to do get together homework. If she is older you can’t do homework, instead try chatting with your dream love. Pls talk politely with your dream love.

3] Date her.

If you are friendlier with your older love or elder love, try dating her. Pls ask the girl very politely. If she says yes that means she likes you a bit or more than that. Try a candle light lunch [candle light dinners are normally done so try a lunch instead of dinner]. Talk more romantically.

4] Ignore.

If your dream love is starting to hang out with you more than her friends, try ignoring your love for 2-7 days. This will make your love crazy but she starts to worry why you are doing this. So this works.

5] Propose

Now it’s the time to propose your love to your dream love. After ignoring her she might come and ask you why you are doing like that. Then you say there is one reason why you are doing this. Then she asks what it is? Then you say you are in love with her and you are afraid to say because your dream love will leave you.

So these are the 5 tips to make your dream love to love you in 2-4 months.

I wish you best of luck.

Falling In Love

By Jimmy Sturo

It has been said, "Trip over love, you can get up. Fall in love and you fall forever." Albert Einstein, one of the foremost scientists of modern times, once concluded that gravitation cannot be held responsible when people fall in love. Perhaps what he was really trying to get across was the fact that love just happens and cannot be planned or executed. There are no rules to falling in love, it just happens and when it does, few are left sensible enough to ask why, when, what and how.

Now, it is absurd to attempt understanding love, not only because the task is impossible but also because falling in love requires no comprehension. People fall in love all the time - with animals, with inanimate objects, with places, with themselves and of course with each other. Most times people fall in love without even realizing that they are doing so, and when realization does strike, they are already in too deep. For those who believe in the laws or karma i.e. what goes around come around, love becomes something inevitable. As per these laws, people fall in love in a particular lifetime because their actions in earlier lives deemed it so. Everything is determined by the past, the individuals falling in love, the opportune moment, and the time length of the relationship. This may be a hard principle to grasp practically, but as humans, it gives us hope by telling us that what is meant to happen, will happen, and it will only happen when the individual is ready.

In this age of modernization, technology is being used to paint over the landscape of love. Love letters are being replaced by emails and chat rooms have taken the place of secret midnight liaisons. Individuals can look for brides over the Internet and use online community portals to meet their better halves. Some may even go to the extent of getting married online. Falling in love has become a science that functions in the unrestricted world of computers. However, the advent of technology into lovemaking cannot be scoffed at, since many people have met their soul mates on the Net and gone on to live happily ever after. The only risk is that perhaps, the loss of personal contact will make people fall in love a lot slower and possibly make relationships a bit colder.

3 Deadly Mistakes People Make With Their Love Life - You Must Be Aware Of These Before Its Late

By Puspha Pal Singh

It's very easy to fall in love but it's rather difficult to maintain it during the course of the relationship in the long term. You see this is probably the major reason why we have more divorces in the present day and age than ever before. People have a hard time maintaining a relationship and love in the long term. It's only a matter of time before the passion the love is lost and both the partners try to find someone new and fall in love all over again just to realize that they have been committing several mistakes. Read on to discover what these mistakes are and what you can do to save yourself.....

Not caring about the feelings of your partner- You see unless you show a deep concern for the feelings of your partner the relationship would never survive in the long term and all the feelings of love would be lost even before you realize it. Therefore learn to care about your partners feelings and pay them due respect.

Focusing on yourself all the time- You see love is a mutual thing and it always takes two to tango but often when some time has past in the relationship people often tend to start focusing on themselves and their needs all the time and completely ignore their partner. Always remember that love can never last when you focus on yourself too much, Love is always unconditional and selfless.

Be willing to make compromises- Love is also about making compromises but often either both or one of the partners is not ready to make any sort of compromises which often leads to the downfall of the relationship. Therefore unless you are willing to compromise it would never survive in the long term.

What Is Love?

By Francis K Githinji

The four letter word is the most widely used and I might also say abused in the world today. It flows so effortlessly through the lips of men and women. It is thrown so carelessly even where it is not necessary. Sometimes it makes me think there is no definite definition of this word. It depends on the context in which the word has been used. The definition of love is at a persons discretion. But what is love? It is subject to debate because there are many types of love. It depends with the perspective from which you are looking at it. Maybe you are a Christian and what has been drummed into you is agape love from the gospels. What about the love that you feel or have towards a sibling? I hope you are also not forgetting the so called love that is said to bring a man and a woman together.

When a man sees a woman for the first time, and he is attracted to that woman it is said it is love at first sight. But the better phrase to use would be it was lust at first sight. This is the most correct assessment especially of such a scenario. The male species in a human being is still an animal and is always looking for potential females to mate with. It is sex that attracts a man to woman but not love. what is love? Love means something different to man. To him having sex with a woman is paramount and it does not mean that he loves that woman. This is the reason why a man is genetically polygamous. There is nothing like love, it is the power of the loin that is attractive. How else does a man manage to have several wives and lovers hanging at the fringes?

Love is an illusion, it is a creation of the mind. What makes us believe there is love is simply because we do not want to change the status quo. It is a tradition passed from generation to generation and who are we to break these tradition? We were brought up believing in the concept of love. We grew up in a society where the word love was being thrown right, left and center with so much abandon. It is entrenched in our minds that yes, there is love. But have you ever sat down and pondered about is? Have you ever asked yourself what is love? And do you believe in it? Do not start biting your finger nails or scratching your head over the issue, it might go bald it it is not already bald.

The so called love that is so much hyped up is only a temporarily infatuation. People keep on falling in and out of "love". People fall out because infatuation is a temporary feeling and once it is worn out everything is over between the two of you. It must be understood that no love was involved. There is a very big misconception of the true meaning of love. Love is used as an escape goat so that people can indulge in their fantasies. What is love? Love is kindness stretched over a long period of time. It is the best way to put it.

All About Love - #8

By By Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, P.hD

The act of Love carries energy and energy facilitates transitions—transitions create healing. The energy generated by the act of love is astounding. When someone commits to the practice of a life of love and spiritual growth anything can heal. Healing is easy. The following well-known authors, motivational teachers and healers clearly and poignantly express the truth of love and healing. Part IX

"Always look at what you have left. Never look at what you have lost." – Robert H. Schuller

"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." - Oscar Wilde

"Don't be dismayed at goodbyes. A farewell is before you can meet again. And meeting again after a moment or lifetime is certain for those who are friends." - Richard Bach

"There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning." – Author unknown

"The end is the beginning of something new." –Author unknown

"Tomorrow is a new day and time has a way of healing the pain of bad experiences." – Author unknown

"What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from." -T.S. Eliot

"The past is like a river flowing out of sight, The future is an ocean filled with opportunity and delight."
- Anna Hoxie

"Put love first. Entertain thoughts that give life And when a thought or resentment, or hurt, or fear comes your way, have another thought that is more powerful - a thought that is love." - Mary Manin Morrissey

Can Love Destroy A Life?

By CD Mohatta

The title of this article is a little shocking, Isn't it? Because no one can think of love and destruction together. But love does destroy. How? Let us examine.

There is a story of a prince in India. He was in great love with his wife and never wanted to be without her. One day, an enemy king attacked him, but the prince did not want to go out and fight. He did not want to be away from his princess. The princess realized this and she asked the prince to go out for a minute. After sometime, a maid brought the head of princess to the prince with the dying message of the princess. 'Let our love not destroy you. You are a prince and you must save your state from the enemies. I am giving up my life so that you can carry out your duties properly.' Does this small story tell us anything? What lessons can we draw from this?

Many of us are extremely talented. Our talent can create a big difference to the world. We can help the world fight poverty, injustice and produce a better life for all. But some of us fall in frenzied love. This love is all encompassing. This love takes over our life. We see nothing but our sweetheart everywhere. For us, all the other work becomes insignificant. We lose our focus and are centered on our love like a mad person. This eats away the vitals of our personality.

For a person in deep and fanatic love, nothing matters other than love. All other talents take a back seat and the only driver is love. This kind of love destroys. Love that could have been very inspiring, manages to destroy. This is the irony of love.

To save yourselves from such destruction, you must always keep a level headed approach towards everything. You must sit back and reflect. Find out if you are missing larger goals? Think about time management and thought management. Discuss this out with your sweetheart. He/She will surely help you in such a situation. One who loves you, wants you to grow. So discuss this. Think, reflect and make other goals equally important once again in life. Fall in love. Enjoy the bliss of love. But let that love not destroy your personality.

What It Means to Love the Self

By Jeremy Creager

To me what it means to love the self is "growth", Personal Self Growth. It is those big questions "WHY" we all ask as children growing up. (So Just Do Not Stop Asking Why.)

I love to learn about love and self, and life, and freedom, and health, and abundance and happiness, and pure positive healing light unconditional love sores energy.

"I have found that to love the self is to learn what serves me most."

To know what serves us most we have to not only ask, but we have to come-to know what's true for us around questions like,

"What's the meaning of life?"

"Who am I?"

"Where did I come from?"

"Why am I here?"

"Do I have a purpose and what is it?"

"What is love?

And if not love then what else is there that I want to experience in life?"

And so on...

All these types of questions above will guide and lead us to higher vibration, lighter being’s of love, when asked in honest desire to know.

I know that for me to grow; it is only up to me and no one can do it for me.

Growth is self-response-ability.

I alone am the only one that can find what self love means to me.

So,

What does it mean to love the self?

If I were asked, "what does it mean to love the self?"

I would say that the answer comes in stages as consciousness evolves.
Even if we were to know the complete answer the first time the question was asked, once we know the answer, we do not need to ask the question.

We would have to ask, where is love for the self?

Love for the self is within the self, it is the self.

We would have to ask, where is the self to love?

The self to love is deep down at the core of oneself, within the awakened consciousness that is beyond the ego. The self comes from a place of non-attachment and freedom from separateness.

We would have to ask, what is the self that is loved?

The self that is loved is love and life force. The self is the reflection of all the beauty of life and is not attached to the idea of being the self.

We would have to ask, what is the love of the self?

Love of the self is joy, is bliss, is health, is beauty, is greatness, is wise, is the way to God, is God, is You.

We would have to ask, why is there a self to love? There is a self to love because this is the way we want it. The self to love exists because that is all there is, there is nothing else, and the reason is to love the self.

We would have to ask, why love the self?

To love the self is to live life to the fullest, because it feels so good; loving the self feels the best. To love the self is the only way to happiness and health—physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

We would have to ask, how do we love the self?

We love the self by being kind to the self, by learning what the self is, and becoming passionate—even fanatical—about the self, what it wants and needs, by spending time alone going over all the beautiful parts of our self. We love the self only by taking responsibility for our self and having self-respect.

We would have to ask, how does the self love?

The self loves by choice, by free will, by the desire to feel good and to avoid pain. The self loves by its own actions. The self loves itself with compassion.

We would have to ask, when do we love the self?

I think a better question is, "is now a good time to love the self?” “When” is a funny thing; there is only now.

We would have to ask, when does the self love?

The self loves when we are present in the moment, and experiencing love by feeling good.

To love the self means to honor and respect the self, to make it a lifelong practice to love the self, to always see and enjoy the beauty within the self, to go deep into the self to know and remember one’s hidden depths, to accept oneself. It means being love, expressing love, and knowing that one is perfect in all one’s imperfections. It means being in the moment and it means being in love with oneself and all of life.

So "Learning to Love All Things Every Day and Even Down to Every Moment Is for Me What "Self Love" means, And This Is Growth.

A Woman's Complaint - Guys Use the Words "I Love You" Too Lightly or Too Often

By Jerry Heng

Do you find that your guy does not say I love you often enough, or use the words too lightly? Are you clueless about his feelings for you, when you do not hear these three words from him?

Well, women often complain that men use the words I love you too lightly, or do not use them at all. Women do not like guys to use the words too often, as the words would not have any meaning anymore. However, if the guy does not say I love you, a girl will not feel loved.

It is true that women want constant and continual love.

I have a lady friend who had a boyfriend, and both of them had a great time dating. However, the guy has not said I love you to her, after few months of dating. After a few months of waiting, the lady swallowed her pride and said it to him. However, the guy never said it back. In the end, the girl broke off with him, as she felt rejected.

Another lady friend of mine had a boyfriend, who said I love you all the time. To the girl, she felt loved at first. But having heard the words too often, she finds no meaning in the words anymore. She felt that the guy is not taking her seriously, and broke off with him.]

Well, if you have just started dating a guy for a short while, do not press him to say I love you. I cannot tell you when the perfect time is.

But what you want to hear is in a sincere and natural way. What you want is love, and not just sounds. You want to feel love, which he may not say it out. A guy may express his love through actions instead, which is often the case.

However, if he is unable to say I love you after a long time, or if he declares his love too early, it is advisable to re-think if he is the right man. He may not be able to give you the relationship that you desire.

The Five Love Languages Summary

By Forest Anderson

Just as everyone has different personalities and likes and dislikes, people also have different love languages. Your love language is the way that you most feel loved and cared for. Experts have aranged these 5 love languages into five easy to use categories:

The first love language is words of affirmation. If this is your love language, you feel most cared for when your spouse or anyone tells you how wonderful they think you are. It could be verbally or through a written note or another creative way of sharing all the great qualities you possess and all the ways the world is a better place because you are in it.

Another way you might feel loved it through acts of service. If someone taking your car to get detailed or taking over diaper duty for the day or relieving you of some daunting task really hits home with you, then this might be your love language.

The next area is affection. A hug, kiss, snuggle on the couch or sexual intimacy might be the way you feel most loved if your language is affection. It could be sexual or non-sexual, but physical touch is very important to you.

Quality time could also be your love language. Just being with your spouse, whether it's on some adventure or a fancy date or simply sitting the couch, may be the thing that fills you up the most.

The last of the five love languages is gifts. Everyone enjoys getting a gift, but if the receiving something from your spouse lights your fire the most then this might be your love language. It may not even be the gift itself, but the idea of the thought, the time it took and the knowledge your spouse has of you to pick out such a great gift - that completely fills you up!

One thing to be aware of: you tend to love in the way you desire to be loved. So make sure you find out what your spouse's love language is and seek to be creative and intentional in their love language. Happy language lessons!

How To Know If You Are In Love - Figure Out If It's True Love Or Just A Strong Attraction

By Puspha Pal Singh

Almost every human being goes through this phase in his or her life. There is always a time in our lives where we feel it might be love but we are never sure. You see love is a very deep emotion and is much more than just mere attraction. But how to figure out if it's love or just plain attraction? Read on to discover some of the best ways to find out whether it's true love or not and achieve the desired results.

You think about that person 24/7- Have you ever had a feeling about someone and you simply cant stop thinking about that person? No matter whether its morning or night that person even hounds your dreams while you are sleeping. Well this obsessed feeling about someone which you can't seem to control is known as love.

You feel extreme joy around that person- Whenever you are around that person you always experience joy and happiness no matter what mood you were in before meeting him or her. You see when you are in love the person you love becomes someone who would comfort your senses no matter whether you are in a good or a bad mood.

You start missing that person- Love is something which can't keep two people away too long and you instantly start missing that person even when you haven't talked for a day.

You feel their pain- Another best way to figure out whether you are love or not is by the way you feel the feelings of the person you love. You see when he or she is in pain you would feel the same feelings and you would feel their pain. You would find it extremely hard to see them in pain as if they were a part of your body.

Am I in Love? Mind Blowing Ways to Find Out Whether You Are in Love Or Not

By Puspha Pal Singh

So are you in love? Humans have a tendency to question their instincts and often a lot of people out there tend to confuse love for just mere attraction. Love is a very deep emotion and you should never confuse it with initial attraction. So how can one find out whether he/she is in love or not? Read on to discover some of the most earth shattering ways to find out whether you truly are in love or not......

No matter how hard you might try you keep thinking of that person- Does it happen to you a lot? Do you find it hard to stop thinking about the person you feel that you might love? Well if this thing carries on for a long period of time then it's definitely love. You see when our thinking goes out of control and we keep focusing on the same person over and over again then we have definite deeper feelings towards this person.

You feel like heaven around this person- Does this person's company give you absolute joy no matter which mood you might be in? Does this person make you happy even when you are down and depressed? Does his/her presence along lightens up your eyes? If this is the case then it's definitely love.

Do you get strong feelings to spend the rest of your life with this person- This is one thing which will always happen when you love someone. Love is such a strong feeling that you feel like being around that person all the time and not only this you get strong feelings of spending the rest of your life with this special person. There would be no doubts in your mind when you consider to do something in the long term.

Have A Full Life? You Do If - You Have Love In Your Heart - First Sure Sign Of A Fulfilling Life

By Patricia Muscari

Do you care deeply about someone or something? This is the first sign that you are well on your way to a fulfilling life. You are dedicated to the well-being of someone or something very close to your soul. There is a person or persons or a pet in your life that you care very deeply for.

Your beloved may be a grand-child, a close friend, or or family member who brings a spark to your life. You may also have a romantic love in your heart for someone; when this person greets you or visits you, your day begins. Cherish these moments and give thanks.

Could be that the special one in your life is your Chocolate Lab or your Cockatiel! Whoever or whatever the loved one, nurture this love and care for it--it will grow and enrich your life like nothing else. Love will propel you forward and keep you afloat and open your heart to possibility and to life.

Human love is worth nurturing. When we love, we are definitely on another level of being--the level and depth of the heart. Showing our love and speaking heart to heart, listening--really hearing, being-with, thanking and showing appreciation, we can see God in one another. Love is the link we have with our God--with the universe.

Allow this love to expand your universe--to lift you beyond the day-to-day. You will glimpse the richness you have been missing while enduring your heart-breaking transition. Your love is literally the first signpost into the life that awaits you: Your future within.

"It's your unlimited power to care and to love that can make the biggest difference in the quality of your life." ~Tony Robbins~

How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You - In 4 Easy Ways

By Puspha Pal Singh

Love is indeed a tough business and it's very hard to make a girl fall in love with you. Love is much more intense and involves deep feelings and emotions. Girls normally tend to be highly demanding when it comes to the issue of love. Girls are always looking for that perfect one who would love her and keep her happy for the rest of her life. You can make a girl fall in love with you if you become all that she desires and wants in a man. Read on to find out how you can make a girl fall in love with you and achieve desired results.

Fake it till you make it- Well it's a dirty way to make a girl fall in love with you but it sure does work. Try to get into a personality which almost every girl would love and admire. Become someone they would love to be with. The best way is to surround yourself as many females as possible and be the one and only they would love to be with. When you become a rare commodity you would find more girls falling in love with you than ever before.

Appeal right to her heart- Yes we all know there is a big connection between heart and love therefore the best way to make a girl fall in love with you is to appeal right to her heart. Now by this it means appeal to her emotions and get her to involve her emotions. If a girl feels emotionally attached to you than your job of making her falling in love with you is half done.

Be the one who clicks- Girls are always looking out for males who are the so called ones and with whom girls can spend the rest of their lives with. So how to become this one and only who would click? The best way to do this is to be everything and have every ingredient which a girl would expect in her man whom she would love.

Be the prince charming- Every girl expects that a prince charming would come into their life some day who would love them with all his heart. Life is not much of a fairy tale but girls do want it to be that way. The best way to make girls fall in love with you is to become that very prince charming that they expect. Whenever you spend time with her make it the best time of her life and make her enjoy your company. Girls normally tend to fall in love with guys whom they feel comfortable and safe around.

The 5 Love Languages

By Mary Allen

People express and receive love in different ways. Dr. Gary Chapman identifies these as the five languages of love".

1. Quality Time - Attention, quality conversation, time spent together doing something meaningful or enjoyable. Time is Love. Attention is love.

2. Words of Affirmation - "You are beautiful". Words of acknowledgment, encouragement, or appreciation. "You are a giving, loving, kind, warm person. I love who you are". Words of affirmation are words of love.

3. Gifts - From big to small. Flowers. Gifts. Cards. Cars. Houses. Jewelry. Stuffed Animals. Clothing. A gift can be a great gift of love. Some people feel most loved with a gift.

4. Acts of Service - Cooking dinner, washing the car, running an errand, cleaning the house, helping with a task, time spent in contribution to another.

5. Physical Touch - Affection. Massage. Making love. Of course, everyone has their favorite way to be touched. And, touch equals love to many.

Knowing these 5 Love Languages allows you to GIVE and RECEIVE love from others more fully. Of course, we all can appreciate and enjoy each "love language", however there is typically one or two that make you feel MOST LOVED. Which one is your primary love language? How do YOU show love toward those you love? What we tend to do for others, is often a clue to what we enjoy receiving most.

"If you express love in a way your partner doesn't understand, he or she won't realize you've expressed love. Perhaps your husband needs to hear encouraging words, but you feel like cooking a nice dinner will cheer him up. When he still feels down, you're puzzled. Or, maybe your wife craves time with you -- time away from the kids & TV. The flowers you gave her just don't communicate that you care."

The Flames of Love

By Hifzur Rehman

Suppose you have everything; a good job, good health, good reputation, good relationships and lot of money to spend. But still there is something missing from your life. Guess what? The LOVE. It is not something which you should ignore. Life without love is just like body without soul.

Love gives meaning to life as without love life is meaningless. Lucky is the person who gets love and keeps the flames of love burning for ever. It is not a matter of days or months. Love is for life and life is for love.

Short term love encounters are not helpful at all. Be sincere with your body and soul. Indulge in serious life long loving relationship and live a healthy, happy and joyful life.

It is easy to fell in love but difficult to keep the flames of love burning. Before indulging in serious long term love relationships be sure that the person you love is also sincere with you. A selfish person can make your life miserable. If this is the case with you then try to get rid of that person as soon as possible.

Most people do not give importance to their love life as they give importance to their professional life. In most cases, people sacrifice their love life at the cost of their profession. This is a bad choice which ruins the whole life. A sensible balance between the two is necessary in order to enjoy life in its entirety. Do not deprive yourself of the love you need.

People part their ways after living together for years and years. Though this looks strange but is the obvious result of ignoring the genuine complaints and grievances of the other. Sometimes a sincere apology, gentle touch, or a friendly kiss is enough to put your love life on track. However, when deep differences develop between the two then professional consultation is necessary. Do everything to bring back love to your life, if it is lost.

In order to make the journey of life more exciting and enjoyable, you need a loving and caring person with whom you can share your values, dreams, fantasies, joys and jokes. In difficult times of anxiety, sorrow, distress or loss of near and dear ones this person should stand firm besides you and console you in every possible manner.

Love your life and love the person who is in your life. Keep the flames of love burning to live a great, great love life.

Discuss this article with your loved one and carefully listen what he/she says. This can give you a clue of his/her inner sentiments and the depth of love for you. Also avail this opportunity to renew your love life with a new passion and commitment.

Love at First Sight

By Shweeta Bhandari

There are but a mere hundred ways to fall in love, and yet possibly nothing has thus swayed the imagination of poets, writers and people than this- falling in love with a person on first sight. What is it about meeting a person you fancy and just knowing that you will be spending the rest of your life with him or her? It truly is hard to define such a feeling in words. People say that you have to experience it to know it.

Experts say that falling in love at first sight has more to do with outward appearances or a particular facial feature. There is nothing scientific about it. Most of us have an image in our minds about how we would like our prospective partner to look like, even detailing minor details such as the color of the hair and the eyes. Subconsciously, your mind has the image imprinted firmly, and when you come across such a person, it is possible that, your mind matches the image it has with what it sees in front of you. Which is why most people who fall in love, actually end up with the kind of people they were looking for in the first place? Others say that it is not love but a liking which takes place at first sight, and when the interest is pursued, becomes a full emotion.

However whatever people say, wherever you look, love at first sight sells. Be it in an advertisement, as Valentine's Day or even in a movie. If you had to randomly ask people to name their favorite movies, one is bound to be a love story, which celebrates love at first sight. No matter what society thinks, falling in love at first sight will always make up a huge part of our fantasies. So If you ever fall in love and want to add flavors to it, then checkout the love quotes section at one of the best website in quotations and poems.

Respect, Devotion And Love

By Muhammad Adnan

All relationships are based on love, respect and devotion, no matter what type of relationship it is. It is not easy to maintain good relationship forever but we need to keep it bounded by respect, if love is not possible. I observed that a person is our society don't respect those to whom they don't have my relation or their relation with them get worse.

I believe that respect is the stronger bound in keep strengthen the relationship than love because to love in mostly not in your own hand however to respect in up to you. Behind all this there are many factors, which weaken our relationships, irresponsibility, uncooperative behavior, selfishness and lack of quality time for your relatives and dominant behavior from one side. During my past life, I have seen a lot of occasions when impossible turns into possible and vice versa because of change in behavior.

I mostly emphasize on relationships because it is the main source of mental happiness and calmness. Sometimes a sentence of respect, a smile of love, and a hand shake with your partner or opposition changes your world into heaven from the hell. Imagine how little things produce a great change and I believe that such small acts of reconciliation makes a person great.

I always emphasize on respect rather than a love because respect is the only way to keep relation bounded however love will produce charm and strength in it. Believe me relationships are bound by respect grow with your devotion and becomes delightful with love.

When You Are in Love!

By Bob Bhram

What is Love, actually?

Is it the slight pain in the chest when you see someone you love after a long separation? Is it the feeling of a sudden weakness in the knee when you see your sister's best friend? Or is it the feeling in your toes when you had that first Kiss?

Whatever it is, it is a very good feeling. When you are in love, everything around you looks good. Every passerby looks beautiful, and the neighbor's dog doesn't irritate you anymore. And everyone seem to be smiling at you, but that one is simple. You are already smiling like an idiot, they are only smiling back at you. But then, love can make you act like a fool, and the good thing is it feels good too.

When you are in love you go all the way out to help a stranger and feel even better. Have you never paid the toll fee for the car behind you? I often do, and more so when I am in love. Love can also make you do a lot of good things and you thank God for giving all the happiness. Perhaps that is why they say that Love is God.

I have often been in love and each time was a great feeling. Oh I do get on with my life, and carry sweet memories, but I have learned to move on. You always find love again, and I found it the easy and sweet way. After my first break off, I learned that her sexy friend had a crush on me and I fell out of love into love and we had a great time together.

Love is a very sweet thing and we must never do anything to make it sour. It is the best thing that could ever happen to us and we must always cherish if even if a relationship didn't work out. Always have an amicable break up so that when you look back remember the first time you walked hand in hand in the rains, you should smile, and it won't be nice if that memory is interrupted by a nasty break-up fight. You must remember love for all the good things.

One thing that comes in the way of love is also taking one for granted, and when you start encroaching onto the space of your lover. Love doesn't mean you own him or her in the literal sense, even though in love you two are one. True love can be spoiled by over possessiveness and because true love is when you trust your lover to not have to feel over possessive.

Love - Creating The Right Bondage

By Dorothy M. Smith

"Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end." -- Unknown

Whoever said this might be a great thinker! Since a very long time ago people have been looking for the real meaning of love. Great philosophers from across the world have not been able to touch the true essence of love, even after coming up with most profound words to define it. Delving deep into this romantic relationship, philosopher Richard Garlikov came up with meaningful perspective of looking at it. "Whether you are dating with questions, married with concerns, divorced with doubts, or just wanting to understand relationships better in general, The Meaning of Love provides an important framework for more productive and satisfying reflections."

If you are looking for love, would you recognize it if you found it? This is really a big question mark. In some cases people tend to fail to recognize love. You sometimes fail to see the person who loves you, standing right in front just as the person does. So if you feel you got the right person to create the right relationship, don't wait to tell him or her. It might be too late then.

What is more important for me is to create the right relationship and nurture it and enjoy the true essence of love. Love is something that actually needs no map. It is something that can find its way blindfolded. That is probably the only reason that even great minds have not been able to come up with the perfect meaning of love. Hence the best way to define love is not to finding the perfect person, but to build up the perfect relationship. A perfect relationship means really perfect relationship, where love will automatically find its way in. It's not all about assuming a relationship to be perfect. "Assumptions are termites of relationship," to quote Henry Winkler.

Love

By Anna Joe

Love is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection. It’s an emotional predominance, a supreme value. In ordinary use, Love can portray a feeling of intense attraction towards a person. The passion can be for anything under the sun.It is not always for a person that the bud of emotion sows in a heart. It can be for one’s family, friends, career, hobbies and also places. Though Love is not a theme to define, yet can be expressed as a pious feeling, which is usually metaphysical or idealistic in nature. It is believed by some peoples that love is an imaginary abstraction but despite it is often applied on lives by commoners.

Love has got some hypothetical classifications which are put forth by human himself. There can be courtly love, erotic love, familial love, free love, platonic love, puppy love, religious love, romantic love, unrequited love and lastly true love.

Love is known to have varied aspects of its own. Admiration, crush, dating, desire to breed, lust, respect, marriage, broken heart and care are some of the predictable attributes that love comprises of. Love is essentially intangible, easier to experience than to explain. Many believe, as stated originally by Virgil that “love conquers all” or by Beatles, “all you need is love”.Love is a liability which requires commitment. It is all about sacrifices and faithfulness. Love is not always about happiness. It is a pain in its own and it's only love which is the best drug for it.

Loving humanity, compassion, joy and freedom are the four aspects of true love. Love is serene, honest, righteous, conviction, esteem, support and truth. It does not have any room for envy, pride and injustice. Love excuses all. Love happens when a wish is evolved from an attraction which leads to submission and then urges one to take the action of commitment. A deep attachment is felt for the person we love; we are emotionally beguiled by our love and thus seek for devotion and regard. Love brings people together, as opposed to hate which separates humans. Love is refined and if allowed to flow naturally will silken the trail chosen after birth. Love itself is so lubricating that it smoothes the abrasion we come across in life. It is a never ending bond which holds the world together. Love makes a life healthier and fuller. Despite all the differences, impurities in other’s minds and varied barriers you love your loved ones. Love emerges as a key aspect of all sentience and of all form. Love entails a profound trust and partnership with a healthy adoration entrenched in it. Superiority and possession do not have a room in love.

Flushed cheeks, a palpitating heart and clammy hands are some of the outward signs of being in love. But inside the body there are definite chemical signs that cupid has fired his arrow. Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. Love is elevating. It lifts up your spirit. It makes you feel best despite all the negative qualities of yours. Love never seeks reason or explanation. It is a bond of trust, respect and emotion shared between two people.

Looking For True Love

By Candace Talmadge

True love. Most of us search high and low for true love in that one ideal relationship. We struggle over it and with it, yearn for it, craft books, music, and poems about it-all without a clear understanding of what we seek or why we want it so desperately.

We're not even sure what love is. How do we define it? The definition of love is as unique and as varied as every individual who experiences it. That's a big part of the problem. Love feels different for each person. So how do we tell if the one we love actually returns the favor? After all, our loved one may offer us love that does not quite feel like what we know as love.

To clear up at least some of the confusion, let us establish a basic definition for true love. The truest, purest love is unconditional. Such love is also the simplest form of love because it has no hooks, no standards, no expectations, no conditions attached to it whatsoever. No complications, no hidden clauses or agendas, no restraints or exceptions.

Unconditional love is true love, and unconditional love is healing and uplifting-the ultimate source of all life. True/unconditional love sustains and nurtures life, joy, peace, and freedom. That is why we look so hard for true love. Deep in our souls, we long to be free, loved, and secure.

The very simplicity of unconditional/true love is also the source of its power. Lacking all limitations, unconditional love is limitless and endless. Unconditional love is simply another way of saying God, the infinite, the divine, the source, known by many names. Every major religion, in fact, asserts that God is love.

Unconditional love-God in other words-is so simple that most of us find it very suspicious if not downright impossible to understand or accept. We're certain there has to be a catch somewhere, just as we're convinced that some people, somehow and in some way, have done something so horrible or unforgivable that they no longer merit God's or anyone else's love.

Do we damn child abusers? What about terrorists who cause death on a mass scale? Do we condemn corporate polluters? Illegal drug users? Homosexuals? Christian fundamentalists? Those of differing faiths or races?

Our personal litany of the unlovable/unforgivable says far more about the limitations of our love than about anyone else. It also shows us that the love we give and receive is constricted and diminished by judgments, standards, or expectations. Once we impose even one tiny judgment, standard, or expectation on love, it devolves away from being true/unconditional.

Trapped in the painful web of conditional love, we devote our time and energy to looking for love in all the wrong places. We keep hoping to find true love somewhere "out there," outside of ourselves, in someone else's eyes. But that is not the place to find true love.

Future columns will explore where and how to find true love and how we can use that unconditional love to heal ourselves and our world.

How to Say I Love You? In 3 Simple Steps

By Puspha Pal Singh

Saying I love you can be the hardest thing on this planet. How to say it? When to say it? Where to say it? Will he or she say yes or no? There are thousands of questions which dominate our mind just thinking about what’s going to happen after you say it. But the fact is if you say "I love you" in the right manner than you would never have to hear no for an answer. Read on to find out someone of the best ways on how to say I love you to your partner.

Give a pleasant surprise- There are places where you can say I love you to your partner but the timing and place has a big role to play in this situation. You simply can not approach your partner at the wrong place and say I love you directly. You might get rejected or maybe even have to face serious embarrassment.

Set up the stage for it- The best way to say I love you and get the same response from your partner is to set up the perfect moment and stage to say I love you. Take your partner out for a special dinner just for two and share a very intimate moment together. Overwhelm your partner with different surprises and when you feel the moment is right strike your partner with "I love you".

Don't think of the consequences- Just remember you would never know what’s going to happen unless you say it. Therefore stop scaring yourself thinking that he or she might reject you in the end just say what you have to say and that is "I love you". Once you say it your job is done and the load is off your chest. Also the way you say I love you matter a lot in getting the desired response. When you say I love you, you really have to mean it otherwise you might not get the same response.

Find Yourself to Love

By Sandya De Silva

Here's the key to love the other
First find your self in your Creator
And begin to love your real self
For you are so loved by your Maker
Who one day
Thought of you alone
And designed you with HIS very Hands
Much detail God put into you
To make sure you were not a clone
And nor a mass production
But a unique individual
To the very hairs and fingerprint
So HE could take great delight in you
And have a unique relationship with you

When you find your self
In your Creator this way
For the first time you will grasp
The hard truth that
If you don't love your self
The way the Creator loves you
You will never know another's love
Even if you are so loved by them
For the first time you will know
What it means
To love and accept your self
Be loved and accepted by others
And to love and accept others
Not in the worldly selfish way
But in the Godly selfless way
For the first time you will know
What it means
To walk in your own skin
And to be liberated
For the first time you will be fearless
Just to be your self
And never to let another rob your self
For the first time you will begin to enjoy
Being your self
And letting others know your self
For the first time you will know
That there is no need
To compare your self
Neither with the best
Nor with the worst
For you are superior to none
And inferior to none
You are meant to be you
To the best of your ability
For the first time you will experience
What it means to be
At peace with your self
And at peace with others
For the first time you will learn
How to love others
No matter who they are
Or what they are
And in spite of where they are
Or what they have done
Whatever their colour
Caste or creed
You will love them
And not judge them
You will accept them
And not try to change them
When you connect with
Your Creator
And your self
It unleashes
The power within
And the passion
To love your self
To be your self
And love others
With compassion
And then
Just by being your self
And loving them
You will lead them
To find their Creator
To find their true self
And help them
Love themselves
And to love and accept others
And help them
Be loving and creative
To make this world
A better place

Faith, hope and love
Love is the greatest of them all
Love breaks through the barriers
Love covers a multitude of faults
Love never fails
Love always hopes
It always endures
Always forgives
God is love
When you live in love you live in God
Love the other as you love your self
Love sets things in motion
It's the ripple of heaven on earth.

Do What You Love, Happiness Will Follow

By Sue Branner

"Let the beauty of what you love, be what you do." -- Rumi

Do you get excited when you get up to go to work everyday? Does your work fulfill you? When your work gives you energy and satisfies you, you have the opportunity to fill joy on an ongoing basis.

"I love my work," says Tommy, a hair stylist. "I've been doing this for 20 years, and, yes, I get tired at the end of the week. Anyone who says they don't is lying. But I love it! I get to interact with people. I like to work all day long with appointments back to back. I get wrapped up in what I'm doing. I'm focused and I want to give them the best. When my father died last April, work saved me."

If you're not doing a job or volunteer work that you love, what gets in the way? Are you concerned with not making enough money? Are you worried that you won't meet your family obligations? Find a way to restructure your life, and perhaps simplify your lifestyle, to start doing what you love. If you're not ready to make the full leap, bring what you love into your life on a part-time or volunteer basis. Doing what you love, even in small doses, will bring joy to your life and give you the chance to contribute your gifts.

What small step can you take today to move toward doing what you love? Take that step. Happiness will follow.

Have You Fallen in Love?

By Mario Adi saputra

"If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him, feel honored that love came and
called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different. If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave,do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame,Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

There is where many lovers go wrong.Having been so long without love,they understand love only as a need.They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need.They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift,and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart.Love has its own time, its own seasons,and its own reason for coming and going.You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover,there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

If you keep your heart open, it will come again....

Let Your Emotions Flow With Love Songs

By Tom Janison

“I hold it true, whate'er befall;

I feel it, when I sorrow most;

'Tis better to have loved and lost

Than never to have loved at all”

When Lord Alfred Tennyson had written these wonderful lines, he must have thought about those millions of romantics who wander around in this world. History has witnessed that lovers have had a world of their own where there is nobody to perturb them. Being in love is probably one of the most beautiful things that can happen to someone in a lifetime. Love means a world of its own where things are beautiful and everything seems to be as pure as the word love itself. In fact the world of love is a world of variety. There are various forms, shades and moods of love and the only one thing that can complement this diversity of love are love songs. In fact love songs could actually complement your style of love.

In fact love songs are probably one of the best ways to express your love for that someone special. To be very honest love songs can complement your mood. Whether they are romantic and merry love songs or sad and painful love songs, one has to go through that phase of love while singing that song or while penning that song. Love songs have the capability in them to evoke the feeling of love in the one who listens to them. In fact being in love gives one a certain feeling of freedom and this gets very well reflected through the various love songs that talk about new love and how one feels the freshness and the liberty in a newly found love. Again sad love songs can make one weep and feel the pain of lost love or a love that could never bud. Somebody very rightly said that love and music know no bounds and that they have a deep connection between them.

In fact perfect love songs and the perfect atmosphere can make a person easily express his love for that special someone. In fact as I already said love songs have this immense potential in them that can make a person fall in love and can make a person feel the pain of a lost love. At times love can cause immense pain and this pain can be only understood by the ones who have felt it. Love is probably the only thing that can bring to one immense joy as well as heartbreaking pain. The pain of losing your loved one is probably the worst feeling that one can go through. In fact the song “My heart will go on” by Celine Dion still evokes the feeling of the eternal love and the pain that one goes through when one has to lose the love of his life.

These days love songs are not only available in CDs and DVDs but one can find some of the greatest love songs on the internet and can download them and store them for eternity. Love is an eternal feeling and music makes others feel good and when love songs are made they are meant to make the world the most beautiful place to be in. But yes one should always remember that love is the one thing that brings joys as well as the pain.

The Law of Love

By Melody Bass

Love is its own law. Let love be your guiding principle.
When in doubt, listen to your heart. Don’t allow mental concepts, beliefs, or assumptions that are not based on love to dictate your behaviour. You are the source of love. The love inside you is abundant and eternal. You don’t need to beg, control, or compromise in order to be loved.

The more you focus on love and gratitude, the more you will be surrounded by love. If you complain, blame, and dwell on fear, you’ll attract others who are also resentful, angry, and fearful. Love knows no borders and no boundaries. Love includes everyone and everything.

Love takes no position, rising above separation. Find unity within by resolving the conflicts inside yourself and you won’t have to act them out with another.
Let telling the truth about who you are and what you are feeling and thinking be your foundation.

Vulnerable self-disclosure allows for empathy and understanding. The more truth is shared the more love grows.

Love is a state of consciousness available only when you’re willing to relinquish your defences. Protection is a barrier to love.
Love cannot be given or taken but it can be shared. The vibration of love in you is often stimulated when you come into contact with one who carries it.
It’s ok to make mistakes. Very few humans are able to love perfectly. Forgive yourself and others generously and you will experience such a shift of energy.

There is nothing to fear but fear itself”. We often have a programme running that we are not even aware of, which is protecting ourselves with fear.

One of the reasons we become so fearful, is that we have programmed with the habit of Protecting Ourselves with Fear. .

The law of love ensures that you see this universal truth. You cannot leave an experience permanently unless you exit with love and allowance.

That is why people tend to keep repeating the same types of patterns; until the day they stop resisting, and instead embrace it with love.

This could be a money, health or relationship issue. You cannot leave a situation permanently until you exit it with love. You cannot permanent.

WHAT IS LOVE? Love is energy. It is the foundation of all things. It is acknowledging that there is no separation. Love is expansive.

Anything that puts you in touch with your knowing opens the Heart.

Sacred Love - The Art of Falling in Love Over and Over and Over and Over Again

By Cristopher Walker

Through the practice and mastery of inner stillness, we can choose to be available for love at any time. We achieve this by simply diving past the ego, through the layers of emotion and fears, straight to the core that sits within. It is a hard path, because it is direct. This spontaneous act of falling in love is an essential asset for any sacred relationship. The keys to this direct path to love are in learning to focus on the object of the moment, and be totally present and un-distracted with your lover. It may be confrontational at first, but eventually, this experience of falling in love will become a permanent experience, always behind the reality of everyday life.

When you commit to be open, you can truly fall back in love any time you choose. We go straight past the ego, past the intellect, and we fall back in love because there is no expectation, no resistance, no question, nothing to defend or protect, no “I” or “me”, there is just love. There is no reason, so there is no resistance.

Becoming available to fall in love over and over with your beloved, requires that you create the space, the openness for love to exist. If you can master this art, then you can choose to make it last one second, or a lifetime. No matter what the circumstances, whether you are single or in your relationship, you can fall in love again and again. It is the most beautiful art, the most profound education. Becoming available does not depend on circumstances, but draws us straight to the moment of love.

Then, there is no memory needed, there is no hoping for a special circumstance, or event. Then, whether you are laying in each other’s arms, or separated forever, love can be celebrated in all its beauty. You can become available to fall in love every moment you choose. New love, old love, young love, sweet love, sacred love. It is simple really. You just need to know how to get out of your own way, switch off the protection, change modes, and you are there.

Love is independent of your thinking and emotions. If you can find love through the art of stillness, you will have found the secret to unconditional love, and the solution to all of life’s challenge. Then no matter where you are, no matter what is happening you can know that love is in your heart. A love that lasts forever; stillness where you, your beloved and all that surrounds you become one, in love.

Relationship Advice: Your Language of Love

By Jeff Herring

Q. My wife and I have been married now for three years, and in the beginning it was wonderful, but now we seem to have grown apart. Part of the problem is that 1 love to be touched; it makes me feel loved So I am always hugging and touching my wife, but she says she doesn't feel loved by me. Plus, she has stopped touching and hugging me, so consequently, I am beginning to feel unloved by her. Is this relationship over? What can we do to get this changed?

A. Many couples struggle with how to express love. The answer lies in realizing that each of us has our own unique "love language."

In general, most people need to either see love, hear love or feel love.

Problems can be twofold:

1. We typically don't know what our partner's love language is because not only have we not asked, but we also didn't even know we were supposed to ask.

2. Our natural tendency is to express love in the same way we would most like to receive it That works fine if we have the same love language as our partner.

But guess what?

Most couples have different love languages.

So in this reader's case, it's fairly clear that his love language is touch. It's how he best "gets it" that he is loved.

So naturally, he will communicate love in his own love language - touch. The problem is that his wife's love language is likely not touch, leading to more and more frustration for both.

The solution is to discover your partner's love language.

How?

This is gonna be complicated, so hang in there with me:

ASK

I'll even give you the words:

"In order 'for you to feel most loved by me, do you need to see it (I do things to show you), hear it (I tell you I love you), or feel it (I hug and touch you)?"

Once you have the answer, you can begin to communicate in that person's love language.

In this case, I'd be willing to bet that as he learns to communicate more often in his wife's love language, she will communicate more in his. In other words, he'll be touched a lot more.

He can thank me later.

How to Make Men Desire You

By Gerry Restrivera

Women is the object of men's desire, in return men are also the object of women's desire. Now the question is, with a lot of women out there looking for lovable responsible men, can you make men desire you? Getting his attention is hard enough sometimes and if you aim for his affection and desires, that would require a lot of work and skills. However, there are tips and techniques that you can do.

A woman who is comfortable and confident with herself is a desirable woman. To make men desire you, you have to accept and love yourself first. A woman who is not insecure and confident with herself do not have hang ups, easy to get along with and men will love to be around you. Men do not want women with a lot of insecurities that he needs to try everything just to make her feel good about herself.

A woman who dresses well is a desirable woman. It doesn’t mean that you have to wear expensive clothes but women should keep up with the trend and take care of herself physically. If you know how to dress properly, know how to give your body some love and care, people and including men will treat you well and want to be near you of course. You should know how to groom yourself and take care of your body to make men desire you.

A woman who is smart and intelligent is a desirable woman. Shapely body and a beautiful face, although important to attract men are all superficial. If you do not have brains or do not know how to make a good conversation then you are just one of those beautiful women who lack substance. You do not have to be a super genius, everyone has their own special intelligence and you have to know how to express your thoughts. You can make men desire you if he can learn new things from you and you have the ability and the desire to learn new things too.

A woman who is feminine and acts like a true lady is a desirable woman. Although most women now are career oriented and some women are even in the field of work dominated by men like engineering, it doesn't mean you already lost your femininity. Being sweet, kind hearted, giving and caring are natural traits of being a woman and you can still keep those traits even in this modern world. You can make men desire you if you still have those feminine qualities that most men want to experience with a woman.

Why Love Is The Antidote Of Fear

By Mere T

Love merges two human beings physically, emotionally and spiritually. True love is everlasting and it leaps over the border of terrestrial world to spread to the realm beyond. Every human being needs love and everyone is searching for it. Love is one thing that material wealth cannot buy.

Love is the primordial force in the universe and it is what links and unites everything. Love is the original substance of each and every one of the prophets and every religion has touched on this unique source.

Yet sometimes when they find it, they can also be disappointed, betrayed in their trust and filled with a desire for revenge. When suffering pushes us to such extreme feelings, love abandons our hearts, and a grey pall falls over our existence.

That is because Love is an intense emotion; love is a source of energy; it is like a magnetic flow and it extends its radiance over the person who inspires it. Moreover, you have probably noticed that even at a distance, feelings can create an impact.

Truth to tell, all the great Masters on this world have revealed this: the world around us is governed by the luminous, magic energy of Love. It is the main force in the universe, the source of everything; all other forms of energy are derived from it.

Psychic Maria Duval says Love is the antidote for fear. How true this statement is. Love is also the most powerful forces in the universe because it binds all together.

Maria Duval also says that you can accept this energy into your innermost heart so that its radiation will fill into you by developing a positive and constructive way of thinking, for Love contains everything and makes everything possible.

In conclusion, the force of Love can make you to be loved, heal you and free you from suffering. If fear is a feature of mankind, Love itself is the quality of God.

Am I in Love? 3 Proven Ways to Find Out Whether You Are in Love or Not

By Puspha Pal Singh

Do you have this strange feeling inside you which is hard to figure out? This may be love but since you are confused it can be otherwise as well. This is normally a situation of mixed feelings where you find it real hard to decide whether it's true love or is it just attraction. Read on to find out some of the best proven ways to find out whether this is love or just attraction.

Is he/she always in your thoughts? - Normally when a person is in love they simply can't stop thinking about the person they are in love with. No matter how hard you try but such thoughts would always conquer your mind even when you don't want them to. You would be totally driven crazy just based on these thoughts.

Do you care for him/her- Normally when we love someone we tend to care about them a lot? We value them even more them we value ourselves and this is what true love is all about. Are you hurt when the person you feel you might love is hurt? Do you feel or experience joy when the person you feel you might love is happy? Is the answer to these questions is yes than you most probably love that person.

Does his/her company comfort you? - When you are in love with someone you would always feel great comfort and joy when that person is around you. And when you are away from the same person you would experience loneliness and discomfort. It's often said that the one's we love the most comfort us at the same time hurt us the most. Therefore if even the smallest of comments from your partner hurts you a lot than you are definitely in love with that person.

Express Your Love to Attract Love

By Janice Hilton Freeman

A world without love is a very sorry world. Any guy will shoot me if I say that it is not important to love or to be loved. Even if you feel the need to pretend that it isn't, I need to let you know of this example:

Jim experienced love during his adolescence. He fell in love with his classmate, Jenny. He wrote little love notes to express his love to Jenny. Jenny was a pretty, blonde cheerleader who reciprocated his love. Jim was overjoyed.

But a few months later, Jenny broke up with Jim. As a result, Jim now feels that expressing his love for someone is painful and he keeps to himself most of the time.

Jim's example tells us that we should not shut ourselves off to love even though we might suffer a few setbacks in dating. Setbacks are a frequent occurrence in dating. That is why we seldom see first-dating couples who hit off really well in the beginning and get married.

When we feel love, it is important to express it. Very often, many people feel the need to express their love. But, something holds them back. It may be a mental thought that holds us back or it might be a certain event that prohibits our behavior. However, the very basic action of love should be by physical touch.

Intimacy is shared through touching. When we love someone, we feel the desire to hug, touch and kiss the person. Most people are shy to reach out and express their feelings through hugging and physical touch.

In dating, we often forget we need to express our loving nature first before we can attract love.

Relationship Advice - Love - Types of Love

By Krystal Kuehn

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. -George Sand

Types of Love

Most people can love those who love them in return. They can love much, and they can love little. They can love one person more than they love another. Love can be strong or it can be weak. There are different degrees and intensities of love just as there are also different varieties of love. Love for family is unlike love for friendships. Some love is characterized by greed or vainglory. And there is divine or spiritual love. This is the highest form of love in that it is perfect and supreme. This love comes from God because God is love. The ability to give and receive love is the greatest of all human qualities because its source is divine.

In the English language we have just one word to describe the various types of love; that is, the word "love." In the Greek, there are three distinct words to describe love: eros, phileo, and agape. Each one describes a different expression of love.

• Eros love has to do with sensuality. It is physical and erotic. It yearns to have its own hunger satisfied.

• Phileo love transcends physical desire. It is normal human affection toward anyone or anything that is enjoyable or satisfying. Phileo is emotional and unpredictable. It lasts as long as it is being gratified. However, once the pleasure or desire is gone so is the phileo.

• Agape love is an unconditional and giving love. It is active and motivated by what it can do for others, and it does not expect anything in return. It is not based on feelings, but is constant and stable. It can love when hated. It can give freely regardless of one's attractiveness or worth.

The different types of love help us to distinguish between giving and self-fulfillment. Understanding the different types of love can help us to understand maturity and motives in our loving. It can also help us to appreciate that a healthy balance of all three of these types of love can be the ingredients of some very happy and successful relationships.

REFLECTION

o Think about the people you love. What is different in the way you love each one of them?

o If you had to make a list of the people you love, who would be at the top of your list? The bottom?

o Review the 3 types of love (eros, phileo, and agape). Describe your experience of each. Which one is most dominant in your life and relationships?

o Do you feel you have a good balance of the different types of love? Or do you want more or less of one or more type(s)?

o If you had to define love, how would you describe it?

EMPOWERING THOUGHTS & AFFIRMATIONS...

There is more than one way to say I LOVE YOU.

I can know love in a deeper way as I learn how to discern its attributes.

Win Back Your Ex- Are You Ready?

By SBoudr

Are you ready to win back your ex? Don't answer this question too quickly. This is a question that requires a lot of thought. Do you have a plan? To win back your ex is something that requires a well thought out game plan. You don't want to go about this half-a$$ed, or it will most likely go poorly.

The first thing to think about before going to try to win back your ex is, why did we break up in the first place? This may or may not be an obvious answer for you. This is why the whole process requires some time and thought and a plan.

When you are focusing on what went wrong in your relationship, you mainly want to focus on what you did wrong. You may be saying to yourself that it wasn't all you, he/she had problems as well that require some attention. That maybe, but if your the one trying to win back your ex, then you need to focus on yourself first. You need to show him/her that you've been working on yourself and have made changes for him/her. This is the most important thing during this proces.

Now that you've addressed 'your' issues, it's time to start up some sort of communications with him/her. Depending on how this first conversation goes, it can be a building block to reopening some doors to your relationship. However, before you go thinking everything is going to pick up where you left off before the break up, but with everything fixed, you better just slow down for a minute. You need to take this slow and easy. Even though this is your ex, you need to start everything all over again, just as like you did the first time around.

The most important thing is to be fun and confident. You should never underestimate the power of confidence when you are attempting to win back your ex. You will have a whole lot more success by proving to them that you are a strong independant person that doesn't need to rely on someone else, than acting like a high school kid that just got dumped from someone they've been dating for a week and it's friday night and you have nothing to do. That isn't going to make you attractive to anyone.

How much do I know of myself

By Omopari-iwa Fe

On my preceding posts, we discussed about you been really organized and so on. To be organized also entails knowing yourself. But to day we will be dwelling much on:

1. Are you free to admit your mistakes and accept advise or been overly defensive of your attitudes and actions?

2. Are you a complainer or generally cheerful and optimistic?

Whatever your answers are to these questions, we are going to elaborate on them. As I want you date to be a marriage material, so I will be molding you too to be a better person.

1. You must be free to accept your mistakes and accept advice. You might say this is not macho to freely admit your mistakes and that it erode your authority. From this end where I am sitting, I will tell you that it helps you a lot in the dating game.

If you are not freely admitting your mistakes, this will make your date feel that your will end up to be an argumentative person which may one day lead to bickering and even escalating to anger which leads to violence (home).

With freely admitting mistakes and accepting advise will also make the other person feel that he/she is been carried along in the relationship and that its not a dictatorial relationship. This will make both of you feel that you can make meaningful suggestions that can be helpful to each of you and really sometimes their suggestions are helpful. You may not know until you’ve tried them. Accepting mistakes makes a partner feels that she/he have a place in your life.

You do not need to be overly defensive of your action too as this will make your partner feels that you are a dictator and this will make her keep to herself. This will also send the wrong signals to that partner that you have something to hide that’s why you always defend your course even if you know it’s wrong.

So, to be overly defensive to all your actions and behaviours as a person should have to be reduced to the very minimum even if I can say that all male are born to do this.

2. It is not wise to use every opportunity to complain. Some of you may say that complaining make your spouse remember to do the right thing. Teach and tell him/her if you know that you know it better than the other person. Complaining about a certain mistake or a certain matter will make you spouse feel that you are not satisfied when with him/her.

This complaining attitude of yours can even make her/him loose focus and confident which will make her/him keep to him/her self from what she feels or know how to do right. Because she/he will feel that even if she/he do it right, you will also complain. This your complaining also make her/him feel that she/he is doing his/her best or she/he is not good enough for you.

So if you are the complaining type, you need to change to be the cheerful and optimistic one which will make your spouse or date to be happy when ever she/he is around you. Been cheerful also make you feel free emotionally and give you and edge over a pessimistic person

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Keeping Your Love Life Alive

By tobey Craft

While in the waiting room of our doctor's office, I picked up a magazine and started reading about ways to keep love and sex alive in your marriage. In this article several couples shared their ways of keeping their love alive in today's environment. I kept finding this theme in different magazines. So I decided to write down ideas of how to keep one's marriage alive and well in this century.

1. Always making the spouse feel special. Showering compliments on her looks and sexual charm is quite rewarding for her; especially when she is told how beautiful she looks.
2. Receiving flowers and other lovely gifts without any specific reason brings a smile to her face. These little things make your relationship stronger. I remember the time I opened my refrigerator to start supper and there was a bouquet of flowers in the center of the refrigerator. When I turned around to say thanks, there stood my hubby with a big smile on his face.
3. On different occasions, we plan dates. Yes, at our ages of 68 and 69, we still create dating times. We were remembering our cruising days: we went from one end of Marion, Ohio (Stewarts Root Beer Drive-in) to the other end of town (L&K Restaurant). Our dating days were back in 1961. So we revived them once again. Fun. This week (July 2, 2008) we took my husband's mother to Stewarts Root Beer Stand for an evening meal. Mom is 95 years old and she shared how she used to come to this same root beer stand while she was dating.
4. By planning your "dates" around a picnic, don't forget to bring candles. Yes, lit candles on a picnic table may not seem romantic but it is. It is something your spouse will not expect but be extremely pleased that you did. It will bring joy and laughter.
5. While walking down the trails, hold hands. That human touch means so much.
6. Taking an evening stroll around your neighborhood, walking along the riverside or strolling down a country road, reach out and take your spouse's hand. The rewards are great.
7. Regular physical touch is necessary. On many occasions my husband comes into my office, leans down and gives me a kiss. This brings a smile to my face. There are many times when I enter his office, get behind him, reach around with my arms and hug him.
8. Try kissing your spouse on the cheek before leaving for the office. When you return home, greet your spouse with a hug and a kiss. This takes such little time but warms the heart.
9. Take a bath together. By having lit candles around the bathroom, it gives an ambience of romance. Try having glasses of wine or soda (if you don't drink) sitting near the bathtub; give each other a toast; massage each other with aromatic oils. Pleasure is something we all enjoy.
10. Take some time out of your busy schedule (each day) to be with each other. That quality time you spend together will make your bond stronger.
11. When your children are young, you might not feel that you have the strength after a busy day to be romantic or you may not feel like it. That is the time, you need that extra hug, a kiss on the cheek, a swirl around the kitchen with no music playing, to climb into the bathtub together, massage your spouse's feet will help him/her to relax, or simply putting your arm around your spouse and encouraging her to put her head on your shoulder. These little things mean so much to a mother who is wiped out and bring you so many new rewards. These little pleasures bring great rewards and are more remembered than you might think. When you are older, she may remind you of those little things that meant so much to her and most of them will only cost you time.
12. Think of the ways you want to be treated by your spouse and treat your spouse even better. Your rewards will keep growing and your benefits will improve measurably.