On my preceding posts, we discussed about you been really organized and so on. To be organized also entails knowing yourself. But to day we will be dwelling much on:
1. Are you free to admit your mistakes and accept advise or been overly defensive of your attitudes and actions?
2. Are you a complainer or generally cheerful and optimistic?
Whatever your answers are to these questions, we are going to elaborate on them. As I want you date to be a marriage material, so I will be molding you too to be a better person.
1. You must be free to accept your mistakes and accept advice. You might say this is not macho to freely admit your mistakes and that it erode your authority. From this end where I am sitting, I will tell you that it helps you a lot in the dating game.
If you are not freely admitting your mistakes, this will make your date feel that your will end up to be an argumentative person which may one day lead to bickering and even escalating to anger which leads to violence (home).
With freely admitting mistakes and accepting advise will also make the other person feel that he/she is been carried along in the relationship and that its not a dictatorial relationship. This will make both of you feel that you can make meaningful suggestions that can be helpful to each of you and really sometimes their suggestions are helpful. You may not know until you’ve tried them. Accepting mistakes makes a partner feels that she/he have a place in your life.
You do not need to be overly defensive of your action too as this will make your partner feels that you are a dictator and this will make her keep to herself. This will also send the wrong signals to that partner that you have something to hide that’s why you always defend your course even if you know it’s wrong.
So, to be overly defensive to all your actions and behaviours as a person should have to be reduced to the very minimum even if I can say that all male are born to do this.
2. It is not wise to use every opportunity to complain. Some of you may say that complaining make your spouse remember to do the right thing. Teach and tell him/her if you know that you know it better than the other person. Complaining about a certain mistake or a certain matter will make you spouse feel that you are not satisfied when with him/her.
This complaining attitude of yours can even make her/him loose focus and confident which will make her/him keep to him/her self from what she feels or know how to do right. Because she/he will feel that even if she/he do it right, you will also complain. This your complaining also make her/him feel that she/he is doing his/her best or she/he is not good enough for you.
So if you are the complaining type, you need to change to be the cheerful and optimistic one which will make your spouse or date to be happy when ever she/he is around you. Been cheerful also make you feel free emotionally and give you and edge over a pessimistic person
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