Express Your Love to Attract Love

By Janice Hilton Freeman

A world without love is a very sorry world. Any guy will shoot me if I say that it is not important to love or to be loved. Even if you feel the need to pretend that it isn't, I need to let you know of this example:

Jim experienced love during his adolescence. He fell in love with his classmate, Jenny. He wrote little love notes to express his love to Jenny. Jenny was a pretty, blonde cheerleader who reciprocated his love. Jim was overjoyed.

But a few months later, Jenny broke up with Jim. As a result, Jim now feels that expressing his love for someone is painful and he keeps to himself most of the time.

Jim's example tells us that we should not shut ourselves off to love even though we might suffer a few setbacks in dating. Setbacks are a frequent occurrence in dating. That is why we seldom see first-dating couples who hit off really well in the beginning and get married.

When we feel love, it is important to express it. Very often, many people feel the need to express their love. But, something holds them back. It may be a mental thought that holds us back or it might be a certain event that prohibits our behavior. However, the very basic action of love should be by physical touch.

Intimacy is shared through touching. When we love someone, we feel the desire to hug, touch and kiss the person. Most people are shy to reach out and express their feelings through hugging and physical touch.

In dating, we often forget we need to express our loving nature first before we can attract love.

Relationship Advice - Love - Types of Love

By Krystal Kuehn

There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. -George Sand

Types of Love

Most people can love those who love them in return. They can love much, and they can love little. They can love one person more than they love another. Love can be strong or it can be weak. There are different degrees and intensities of love just as there are also different varieties of love. Love for family is unlike love for friendships. Some love is characterized by greed or vainglory. And there is divine or spiritual love. This is the highest form of love in that it is perfect and supreme. This love comes from God because God is love. The ability to give and receive love is the greatest of all human qualities because its source is divine.

In the English language we have just one word to describe the various types of love; that is, the word "love." In the Greek, there are three distinct words to describe love: eros, phileo, and agape. Each one describes a different expression of love.

• Eros love has to do with sensuality. It is physical and erotic. It yearns to have its own hunger satisfied.

• Phileo love transcends physical desire. It is normal human affection toward anyone or anything that is enjoyable or satisfying. Phileo is emotional and unpredictable. It lasts as long as it is being gratified. However, once the pleasure or desire is gone so is the phileo.

• Agape love is an unconditional and giving love. It is active and motivated by what it can do for others, and it does not expect anything in return. It is not based on feelings, but is constant and stable. It can love when hated. It can give freely regardless of one's attractiveness or worth.

The different types of love help us to distinguish between giving and self-fulfillment. Understanding the different types of love can help us to understand maturity and motives in our loving. It can also help us to appreciate that a healthy balance of all three of these types of love can be the ingredients of some very happy and successful relationships.

REFLECTION

o Think about the people you love. What is different in the way you love each one of them?

o If you had to make a list of the people you love, who would be at the top of your list? The bottom?

o Review the 3 types of love (eros, phileo, and agape). Describe your experience of each. Which one is most dominant in your life and relationships?

o Do you feel you have a good balance of the different types of love? Or do you want more or less of one or more type(s)?

o If you had to define love, how would you describe it?

EMPOWERING THOUGHTS & AFFIRMATIONS...

There is more than one way to say I LOVE YOU.

I can know love in a deeper way as I learn how to discern its attributes.

Win Back Your Ex- Are You Ready?

By SBoudr

Are you ready to win back your ex? Don't answer this question too quickly. This is a question that requires a lot of thought. Do you have a plan? To win back your ex is something that requires a well thought out game plan. You don't want to go about this half-a$$ed, or it will most likely go poorly.

The first thing to think about before going to try to win back your ex is, why did we break up in the first place? This may or may not be an obvious answer for you. This is why the whole process requires some time and thought and a plan.

When you are focusing on what went wrong in your relationship, you mainly want to focus on what you did wrong. You may be saying to yourself that it wasn't all you, he/she had problems as well that require some attention. That maybe, but if your the one trying to win back your ex, then you need to focus on yourself first. You need to show him/her that you've been working on yourself and have made changes for him/her. This is the most important thing during this proces.

Now that you've addressed 'your' issues, it's time to start up some sort of communications with him/her. Depending on how this first conversation goes, it can be a building block to reopening some doors to your relationship. However, before you go thinking everything is going to pick up where you left off before the break up, but with everything fixed, you better just slow down for a minute. You need to take this slow and easy. Even though this is your ex, you need to start everything all over again, just as like you did the first time around.

The most important thing is to be fun and confident. You should never underestimate the power of confidence when you are attempting to win back your ex. You will have a whole lot more success by proving to them that you are a strong independant person that doesn't need to rely on someone else, than acting like a high school kid that just got dumped from someone they've been dating for a week and it's friday night and you have nothing to do. That isn't going to make you attractive to anyone.

How much do I know of myself

By Omopari-iwa Fe

On my preceding posts, we discussed about you been really organized and so on. To be organized also entails knowing yourself. But to day we will be dwelling much on:

1. Are you free to admit your mistakes and accept advise or been overly defensive of your attitudes and actions?

2. Are you a complainer or generally cheerful and optimistic?

Whatever your answers are to these questions, we are going to elaborate on them. As I want you date to be a marriage material, so I will be molding you too to be a better person.

1. You must be free to accept your mistakes and accept advice. You might say this is not macho to freely admit your mistakes and that it erode your authority. From this end where I am sitting, I will tell you that it helps you a lot in the dating game.

If you are not freely admitting your mistakes, this will make your date feel that your will end up to be an argumentative person which may one day lead to bickering and even escalating to anger which leads to violence (home).

With freely admitting mistakes and accepting advise will also make the other person feel that he/she is been carried along in the relationship and that its not a dictatorial relationship. This will make both of you feel that you can make meaningful suggestions that can be helpful to each of you and really sometimes their suggestions are helpful. You may not know until you’ve tried them. Accepting mistakes makes a partner feels that she/he have a place in your life.

You do not need to be overly defensive of your action too as this will make your partner feels that you are a dictator and this will make her keep to herself. This will also send the wrong signals to that partner that you have something to hide that’s why you always defend your course even if you know it’s wrong.

So, to be overly defensive to all your actions and behaviours as a person should have to be reduced to the very minimum even if I can say that all male are born to do this.

2. It is not wise to use every opportunity to complain. Some of you may say that complaining make your spouse remember to do the right thing. Teach and tell him/her if you know that you know it better than the other person. Complaining about a certain mistake or a certain matter will make you spouse feel that you are not satisfied when with him/her.

This complaining attitude of yours can even make her/him loose focus and confident which will make her/him keep to him/her self from what she feels or know how to do right. Because she/he will feel that even if she/he do it right, you will also complain. This your complaining also make her/him feel that she/he is doing his/her best or she/he is not good enough for you.

So if you are the complaining type, you need to change to be the cheerful and optimistic one which will make your spouse or date to be happy when ever she/he is around you. Been cheerful also make you feel free emotionally and give you and edge over a pessimistic person

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Keeping Your Love Life Alive

By tobey Craft

While in the waiting room of our doctor's office, I picked up a magazine and started reading about ways to keep love and sex alive in your marriage. In this article several couples shared their ways of keeping their love alive in today's environment. I kept finding this theme in different magazines. So I decided to write down ideas of how to keep one's marriage alive and well in this century.

1. Always making the spouse feel special. Showering compliments on her looks and sexual charm is quite rewarding for her; especially when she is told how beautiful she looks.
2. Receiving flowers and other lovely gifts without any specific reason brings a smile to her face. These little things make your relationship stronger. I remember the time I opened my refrigerator to start supper and there was a bouquet of flowers in the center of the refrigerator. When I turned around to say thanks, there stood my hubby with a big smile on his face.
3. On different occasions, we plan dates. Yes, at our ages of 68 and 69, we still create dating times. We were remembering our cruising days: we went from one end of Marion, Ohio (Stewarts Root Beer Drive-in) to the other end of town (L&K Restaurant). Our dating days were back in 1961. So we revived them once again. Fun. This week (July 2, 2008) we took my husband's mother to Stewarts Root Beer Stand for an evening meal. Mom is 95 years old and she shared how she used to come to this same root beer stand while she was dating.
4. By planning your "dates" around a picnic, don't forget to bring candles. Yes, lit candles on a picnic table may not seem romantic but it is. It is something your spouse will not expect but be extremely pleased that you did. It will bring joy and laughter.
5. While walking down the trails, hold hands. That human touch means so much.
6. Taking an evening stroll around your neighborhood, walking along the riverside or strolling down a country road, reach out and take your spouse's hand. The rewards are great.
7. Regular physical touch is necessary. On many occasions my husband comes into my office, leans down and gives me a kiss. This brings a smile to my face. There are many times when I enter his office, get behind him, reach around with my arms and hug him.
8. Try kissing your spouse on the cheek before leaving for the office. When you return home, greet your spouse with a hug and a kiss. This takes such little time but warms the heart.
9. Take a bath together. By having lit candles around the bathroom, it gives an ambience of romance. Try having glasses of wine or soda (if you don't drink) sitting near the bathtub; give each other a toast; massage each other with aromatic oils. Pleasure is something we all enjoy.
10. Take some time out of your busy schedule (each day) to be with each other. That quality time you spend together will make your bond stronger.
11. When your children are young, you might not feel that you have the strength after a busy day to be romantic or you may not feel like it. That is the time, you need that extra hug, a kiss on the cheek, a swirl around the kitchen with no music playing, to climb into the bathtub together, massage your spouse's feet will help him/her to relax, or simply putting your arm around your spouse and encouraging her to put her head on your shoulder. These little things mean so much to a mother who is wiped out and bring you so many new rewards. These little pleasures bring great rewards and are more remembered than you might think. When you are older, she may remind you of those little things that meant so much to her and most of them will only cost you time.
12. Think of the ways you want to be treated by your spouse and treat your spouse even better. Your rewards will keep growing and your benefits will improve measurably.

How to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You - Here Are the Tricks You Simply Can't Afford to Miss

By Pusha Pal Singh

Love is one thing every human desires desperately and this is something we all want to have in our life. But most of us want love from the right person and the one we normally desire. This is the major reason why you need some skills which would enable you to appear highly attractive to the person you want to be with. Read on to discover some of the most mind blowing tips using which you will be able to make anyone fall in love with you........

Make them feel special- This is one of the best possible ways to really get a person to fall in love with you. If you can make the person feel good about himself or herself that person would automatically be willing to be in your company all the time and would feel special attraction towards you.

Give them special treatment- Humans have a strong need to feel significant and we are often attracted to the one who can truly make us feel significant and good about ourselves. Therefore if you give that someone special royal treatment and make them feel like a million dollars they would be more than willing to be in your company.

Inspire them to do something they have never done- This plays a major role is making someone fall in love with you. If you can inspire that special someone to do something which he/she always wanted to do and truly believe in their abilities they would be more than willing to be with you. This happens because you give them a special drive and you see their potential which no one else normally does.

How To Get My Ex Back - Making That First Contact After the Breakup

by Peter Harris

ou've been broken up with you ex for at least 1 month. You've been thinking about how you can get your ex back. You've taken that time to deal with your negative feelings and get a handle on your emotions. You are ready to move forward and make that initial phone call to your ex. This phone call must be well planned and its purpose must be well understood by you. This may be your only chance in getting your ex back.

The purpose of this initial phone call is simple - to get your ex in front of you. That's it. You are not trying to get back together. You are not trying to resolve unresolved feelings. You are not trying to rehash the problems of the relationship. All you want to do is to get your ex in front of you again. Once that is accomplished then you can move forward with the following plan.

Your first meeting should be set up as a short get together. Don't consider it a date of any sorts. Don't invite your ex to meet with you to "talk." Your main purpose for seeing your ex again is to have a little fun with them; to see if you can ignite a spark or two. Hopefully you have been working on yourself during your 1 month hiatus so you should appear to your ex as new, fresh and exciting.

The phone call itself should follow some specific guidelines that will significantly improve your chances of securing a meeting with your ex. Here are some things to follow:

1. Call your ex when you know they will have time to talk in private.

2. Don't discuss ugly memories. Keep the conversation light.

3. Share a sweet or fun memory that you have from your relationship.

4. Keep the converstion short.

5. Arrange your first meeting as something specific, like lunch and emphasize that you only have about an hour.

While leading up to your invitation keep the conversation light. When you feel like you are both comfortable with each other then extend the invitation.

365 Reasons Why I Love You - Tell Someone How Much They Mean to You

by Allen Jesson

When it comes to giving someone a gift, most people will look for a something that stands out or in some way shows how much they care about someone.

Giving a gift to show a person how much they mean to you does not have to cost a fortune, In fact there is no better way to show your love than to spend some time making a list of 365 reasons why I love you.

When writing your list of 365 reasons why I love you, try not to focus too much on physical things, consider the persons likes, dislikes, things they say and most importantly the little gestures they make that make you smile.

An example of some of the reasons you could use when compiling your list of 365 reasons why I love you could be:

Your strength
Your devotion
How you are always 100% honest no matter what
Your kindness
Your smile
The way you are always happy first thing in the morning when I am grumpy
The way you take pride in how you look
The compliments you give me
The way you touch my face when we kiss
The little looks you give me when we are around friends
Your loyalty to me and everyone or everything that matters to you
Your compassion for everyone around you
Your selflessness
Your integrity
Your strength
Your devotion
The way you hold me
The way you liven up a room just by being in it
How much you have taught me about life and myself
Your intelligence
The fact that you are good at fixing things or putting things together by hand
Your zest for life
I love to wake up with you by my side...It makes my days better
You always make me feel that you are by my side no matter what
I love that feeling of being secure when you wrap your arms around me
I love the way you keep your cool when I do something stupid
Just being with you feels like I can defy the whole world
You mean the world to me
I like your small gestures that speak volumes about how much you care

Once you have written your list of 365 reasons why I love you it may be a good idea to have a card made and place the list inside. You may even want to read the list to your partner over a romantic dinner. However you decide to present your list of 365 reasons why I love you, make sure you have taken time to list everything that means something to you, sometimes the silly things that people do are the things that make us love them even more.

How to Get Ex Back When Trust Is Gone

By Katie

The most common reason relationships end is due to a lack of trust. A relationship built up of accumulated lies, no matter how small will eventually weigh the relationship down and into a black hole. Each new lie manifests the next one and sooner or later, you will be jumping to conclusions and filling your head with imagined scenario of what they're trying to cover up for. This will be insulting to your partner and a lot of reasons why they would leave.

Regaining trust takes time and a lot of it comes down to your personal insecurities. If you are not 100% sure your ex is lying, why do you consider the worst case scenario first? The more you focus attention on something you fear, the more real it will become. Our imaginations can be powerful and the images we choose to see very vivid and real. If you know you have the power to change what you think, choose to consider other alternatives and weight them up equally.

If your ex has lied in the past but only in the past, you need to be careful you don't falsely accuse them based on that incentive alone. Evaluate your present knowledge of the situation and once again weigh up the different possibilities. If you give your partner the benefit of the doubt, this is a better way to reinforce keeping honest than if you always accused and assumed the worst.

On the other hand if you did a deed that disrupted your partner's trust in you, you need to do something important and that is to be completely 100% honest with yourself first. The reasons for lying can range from the very tiny white lie to something large like cheating. Each situation will be different and weighed upon differently in your ex partner's eyes, so gauge how large of a damage has been dealt. The size of the damage will be related to how long it will take to regain trust back.

One thing that is in your favour is that whatever mistake you have made. A good apology can work almost like a miracle. An apology delivered correctly has the power to cut away years of damage and wipe the slate clean for your relationship thus far. This is powerful for you to know and something you can apply to your everyday relationships as well.

Plan your apology, understand why you are apologizing and talk of feelings instead of blame or why it happened. Be sincere and come from a place of pure love and honesty. Gain the resources you need to start turning your relationship around starting today. You won't have to miss out on developing a strong and loving relationship once more with the tools to help you along the way.

Love - Mature And Immature Love

by CD Mohatta

Love has many facets. Love is still a mystery and every lover has his/her own story about love. What is mature love and what type is immature? Let us find out.

In immature love it is said that the person who falls in love has low self-respect. He/she has little self-confidence and finds a lover to see all the qualities that he/she misses in themselves. The person does not love himself/herself, but loves the partner with great fervor. This is called immature love.

Mature love - If a person has very high self-respect and great self-confidence, he/she is supposed to be in mature love. This is called mature love because it is expected that such persons know what they are doing? They know why they love a particular person and what they expect from the love.

In my opinion both these kids of love may fail equally badly or survive against all the odds, because while talking of love, we have to consider the partner also. I may be a very self respecting person and may have fallen in love after lot of deliberation. That does not matter to my partner who may react in different fashion as times passes. My success or failure does not depend only on me, but also my partner.

Love defies all analysis. Why two persons fall in attraction and become inseparable is a mystery. Very contrasting personalities may love each other for all the life and very similar partner may fall out of love in a short time. It is the very nature of love that makes it a subject of so much investigation .