When You Are in Love!

By Bob Bhram

What is Love, actually?

Is it the slight pain in the chest when you see someone you love after a long separation? Is it the feeling of a sudden weakness in the knee when you see your sister's best friend? Or is it the feeling in your toes when you had that first Kiss?

Whatever it is, it is a very good feeling. When you are in love, everything around you looks good. Every passerby looks beautiful, and the neighbor's dog doesn't irritate you anymore. And everyone seem to be smiling at you, but that one is simple. You are already smiling like an idiot, they are only smiling back at you. But then, love can make you act like a fool, and the good thing is it feels good too.

When you are in love you go all the way out to help a stranger and feel even better. Have you never paid the toll fee for the car behind you? I often do, and more so when I am in love. Love can also make you do a lot of good things and you thank God for giving all the happiness. Perhaps that is why they say that Love is God.

I have often been in love and each time was a great feeling. Oh I do get on with my life, and carry sweet memories, but I have learned to move on. You always find love again, and I found it the easy and sweet way. After my first break off, I learned that her sexy friend had a crush on me and I fell out of love into love and we had a great time together.

Love is a very sweet thing and we must never do anything to make it sour. It is the best thing that could ever happen to us and we must always cherish if even if a relationship didn't work out. Always have an amicable break up so that when you look back remember the first time you walked hand in hand in the rains, you should smile, and it won't be nice if that memory is interrupted by a nasty break-up fight. You must remember love for all the good things.

One thing that comes in the way of love is also taking one for granted, and when you start encroaching onto the space of your lover. Love doesn't mean you own him or her in the literal sense, even though in love you two are one. True love can be spoiled by over possessiveness and because true love is when you trust your lover to not have to feel over possessive.

Love - Creating The Right Bondage

By Dorothy M. Smith

"Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It's not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end." -- Unknown

Whoever said this might be a great thinker! Since a very long time ago people have been looking for the real meaning of love. Great philosophers from across the world have not been able to touch the true essence of love, even after coming up with most profound words to define it. Delving deep into this romantic relationship, philosopher Richard Garlikov came up with meaningful perspective of looking at it. "Whether you are dating with questions, married with concerns, divorced with doubts, or just wanting to understand relationships better in general, The Meaning of Love provides an important framework for more productive and satisfying reflections."

If you are looking for love, would you recognize it if you found it? This is really a big question mark. In some cases people tend to fail to recognize love. You sometimes fail to see the person who loves you, standing right in front just as the person does. So if you feel you got the right person to create the right relationship, don't wait to tell him or her. It might be too late then.

What is more important for me is to create the right relationship and nurture it and enjoy the true essence of love. Love is something that actually needs no map. It is something that can find its way blindfolded. That is probably the only reason that even great minds have not been able to come up with the perfect meaning of love. Hence the best way to define love is not to finding the perfect person, but to build up the perfect relationship. A perfect relationship means really perfect relationship, where love will automatically find its way in. It's not all about assuming a relationship to be perfect. "Assumptions are termites of relationship," to quote Henry Winkler.

Love

By Anna Joe

Love is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection. It’s an emotional predominance, a supreme value. In ordinary use, Love can portray a feeling of intense attraction towards a person. The passion can be for anything under the sun.It is not always for a person that the bud of emotion sows in a heart. It can be for one’s family, friends, career, hobbies and also places. Though Love is not a theme to define, yet can be expressed as a pious feeling, which is usually metaphysical or idealistic in nature. It is believed by some peoples that love is an imaginary abstraction but despite it is often applied on lives by commoners.

Love has got some hypothetical classifications which are put forth by human himself. There can be courtly love, erotic love, familial love, free love, platonic love, puppy love, religious love, romantic love, unrequited love and lastly true love.

Love is known to have varied aspects of its own. Admiration, crush, dating, desire to breed, lust, respect, marriage, broken heart and care are some of the predictable attributes that love comprises of. Love is essentially intangible, easier to experience than to explain. Many believe, as stated originally by Virgil that “love conquers all” or by Beatles, “all you need is love”.Love is a liability which requires commitment. It is all about sacrifices and faithfulness. Love is not always about happiness. It is a pain in its own and it's only love which is the best drug for it.

Loving humanity, compassion, joy and freedom are the four aspects of true love. Love is serene, honest, righteous, conviction, esteem, support and truth. It does not have any room for envy, pride and injustice. Love excuses all. Love happens when a wish is evolved from an attraction which leads to submission and then urges one to take the action of commitment. A deep attachment is felt for the person we love; we are emotionally beguiled by our love and thus seek for devotion and regard. Love brings people together, as opposed to hate which separates humans. Love is refined and if allowed to flow naturally will silken the trail chosen after birth. Love itself is so lubricating that it smoothes the abrasion we come across in life. It is a never ending bond which holds the world together. Love makes a life healthier and fuller. Despite all the differences, impurities in other’s minds and varied barriers you love your loved ones. Love emerges as a key aspect of all sentience and of all form. Love entails a profound trust and partnership with a healthy adoration entrenched in it. Superiority and possession do not have a room in love.

Flushed cheeks, a palpitating heart and clammy hands are some of the outward signs of being in love. But inside the body there are definite chemical signs that cupid has fired his arrow. Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. Love is elevating. It lifts up your spirit. It makes you feel best despite all the negative qualities of yours. Love never seeks reason or explanation. It is a bond of trust, respect and emotion shared between two people.

Looking For True Love

By Candace Talmadge

True love. Most of us search high and low for true love in that one ideal relationship. We struggle over it and with it, yearn for it, craft books, music, and poems about it-all without a clear understanding of what we seek or why we want it so desperately.

We're not even sure what love is. How do we define it? The definition of love is as unique and as varied as every individual who experiences it. That's a big part of the problem. Love feels different for each person. So how do we tell if the one we love actually returns the favor? After all, our loved one may offer us love that does not quite feel like what we know as love.

To clear up at least some of the confusion, let us establish a basic definition for true love. The truest, purest love is unconditional. Such love is also the simplest form of love because it has no hooks, no standards, no expectations, no conditions attached to it whatsoever. No complications, no hidden clauses or agendas, no restraints or exceptions.

Unconditional love is true love, and unconditional love is healing and uplifting-the ultimate source of all life. True/unconditional love sustains and nurtures life, joy, peace, and freedom. That is why we look so hard for true love. Deep in our souls, we long to be free, loved, and secure.

The very simplicity of unconditional/true love is also the source of its power. Lacking all limitations, unconditional love is limitless and endless. Unconditional love is simply another way of saying God, the infinite, the divine, the source, known by many names. Every major religion, in fact, asserts that God is love.

Unconditional love-God in other words-is so simple that most of us find it very suspicious if not downright impossible to understand or accept. We're certain there has to be a catch somewhere, just as we're convinced that some people, somehow and in some way, have done something so horrible or unforgivable that they no longer merit God's or anyone else's love.

Do we damn child abusers? What about terrorists who cause death on a mass scale? Do we condemn corporate polluters? Illegal drug users? Homosexuals? Christian fundamentalists? Those of differing faiths or races?

Our personal litany of the unlovable/unforgivable says far more about the limitations of our love than about anyone else. It also shows us that the love we give and receive is constricted and diminished by judgments, standards, or expectations. Once we impose even one tiny judgment, standard, or expectation on love, it devolves away from being true/unconditional.

Trapped in the painful web of conditional love, we devote our time and energy to looking for love in all the wrong places. We keep hoping to find true love somewhere "out there," outside of ourselves, in someone else's eyes. But that is not the place to find true love.

Future columns will explore where and how to find true love and how we can use that unconditional love to heal ourselves and our world.