Falling In Love

By Jimmy Sturo

It has been said, "Trip over love, you can get up. Fall in love and you fall forever." Albert Einstein, one of the foremost scientists of modern times, once concluded that gravitation cannot be held responsible when people fall in love. Perhaps what he was really trying to get across was the fact that love just happens and cannot be planned or executed. There are no rules to falling in love, it just happens and when it does, few are left sensible enough to ask why, when, what and how.

Now, it is absurd to attempt understanding love, not only because the task is impossible but also because falling in love requires no comprehension. People fall in love all the time - with animals, with inanimate objects, with places, with themselves and of course with each other. Most times people fall in love without even realizing that they are doing so, and when realization does strike, they are already in too deep. For those who believe in the laws or karma i.e. what goes around come around, love becomes something inevitable. As per these laws, people fall in love in a particular lifetime because their actions in earlier lives deemed it so. Everything is determined by the past, the individuals falling in love, the opportune moment, and the time length of the relationship. This may be a hard principle to grasp practically, but as humans, it gives us hope by telling us that what is meant to happen, will happen, and it will only happen when the individual is ready.

In this age of modernization, technology is being used to paint over the landscape of love. Love letters are being replaced by emails and chat rooms have taken the place of secret midnight liaisons. Individuals can look for brides over the Internet and use online community portals to meet their better halves. Some may even go to the extent of getting married online. Falling in love has become a science that functions in the unrestricted world of computers. However, the advent of technology into lovemaking cannot be scoffed at, since many people have met their soul mates on the Net and gone on to live happily ever after. The only risk is that perhaps, the loss of personal contact will make people fall in love a lot slower and possibly make relationships a bit colder.

3 Deadly Mistakes People Make With Their Love Life - You Must Be Aware Of These Before Its Late

By Puspha Pal Singh

It's very easy to fall in love but it's rather difficult to maintain it during the course of the relationship in the long term. You see this is probably the major reason why we have more divorces in the present day and age than ever before. People have a hard time maintaining a relationship and love in the long term. It's only a matter of time before the passion the love is lost and both the partners try to find someone new and fall in love all over again just to realize that they have been committing several mistakes. Read on to discover what these mistakes are and what you can do to save yourself.....

Not caring about the feelings of your partner- You see unless you show a deep concern for the feelings of your partner the relationship would never survive in the long term and all the feelings of love would be lost even before you realize it. Therefore learn to care about your partners feelings and pay them due respect.

Focusing on yourself all the time- You see love is a mutual thing and it always takes two to tango but often when some time has past in the relationship people often tend to start focusing on themselves and their needs all the time and completely ignore their partner. Always remember that love can never last when you focus on yourself too much, Love is always unconditional and selfless.

Be willing to make compromises- Love is also about making compromises but often either both or one of the partners is not ready to make any sort of compromises which often leads to the downfall of the relationship. Therefore unless you are willing to compromise it would never survive in the long term.

What Is Love?

By Francis K Githinji

The four letter word is the most widely used and I might also say abused in the world today. It flows so effortlessly through the lips of men and women. It is thrown so carelessly even where it is not necessary. Sometimes it makes me think there is no definite definition of this word. It depends on the context in which the word has been used. The definition of love is at a persons discretion. But what is love? It is subject to debate because there are many types of love. It depends with the perspective from which you are looking at it. Maybe you are a Christian and what has been drummed into you is agape love from the gospels. What about the love that you feel or have towards a sibling? I hope you are also not forgetting the so called love that is said to bring a man and a woman together.

When a man sees a woman for the first time, and he is attracted to that woman it is said it is love at first sight. But the better phrase to use would be it was lust at first sight. This is the most correct assessment especially of such a scenario. The male species in a human being is still an animal and is always looking for potential females to mate with. It is sex that attracts a man to woman but not love. what is love? Love means something different to man. To him having sex with a woman is paramount and it does not mean that he loves that woman. This is the reason why a man is genetically polygamous. There is nothing like love, it is the power of the loin that is attractive. How else does a man manage to have several wives and lovers hanging at the fringes?

Love is an illusion, it is a creation of the mind. What makes us believe there is love is simply because we do not want to change the status quo. It is a tradition passed from generation to generation and who are we to break these tradition? We were brought up believing in the concept of love. We grew up in a society where the word love was being thrown right, left and center with so much abandon. It is entrenched in our minds that yes, there is love. But have you ever sat down and pondered about is? Have you ever asked yourself what is love? And do you believe in it? Do not start biting your finger nails or scratching your head over the issue, it might go bald it it is not already bald.

The so called love that is so much hyped up is only a temporarily infatuation. People keep on falling in and out of "love". People fall out because infatuation is a temporary feeling and once it is worn out everything is over between the two of you. It must be understood that no love was involved. There is a very big misconception of the true meaning of love. Love is used as an escape goat so that people can indulge in their fantasies. What is love? Love is kindness stretched over a long period of time. It is the best way to put it.